Frequently
Asked
Questions 

Are you a disciplinarian or dominatrix?

I am more of a disciplinarian with a touch of a dominatrix. I have my own style and passions that much more fit the disciplinarian realm. I am a lady with high expectations, firm hand and caring nature, but also, I have a great curiosity in the complex human sexuality and all that comes with it. This occasionally takes me to BDSM and fetish practises and frolics that one might associate with a dominatrix. So, I can be a bit of both. I cherish the aesthetics of olden days enjoy dressing up in retro/vintage inspired fashion, that is me. The stereotypical dominatrix fashion is not something I revel in, but occasional enjoy. If you are looking for dominatrix session, I am very happy to oblige but we might have to consider dungeon hire if your desires require so. 

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How much notice do you require? Will you take last minute bookings?

I prefer at least 1 weeks’ notice, especially for a new customer, however I will take last minute booking if I am available and all is in place. I don’t session all the time, so I often have some flexibility.

 

Are you available full time/anytime?

I don’t do disciplinarian/dominatrix work full time but most (not all) of my other engagements are flexible so often, I can make myself available. My preference for sessions is weekdays between 11 am and 3 pm, but I can do other times if you ask nicely, including one weekends and evenings.  

 

How will the booking process work? 

When you contact me, I shall get back to you within a couple of days, If I don’t please send me a polite reminder as technology and my brain do get overwhelmed at times. We will agree date and time and you will pay £50 deposit (£100 fr weekends) to reserve the space (new customers only). In return I shall send my details, instructions and a questionnaire that is essential for planning your session. 

 

Why do you ask for deposit?

Deposit is essential for a few reasons: 1. I am reassured that you respect my time and effort I will put in the session preparation* 2. I will be certain that you are genuine and intend to turn up 3. I will give you my details so you can find me. If deposit is too much to ask, I will not be comfortable with giving your any further information about me. 

 

Is the deposit refundable or transferable?

The deposit is not refundable; however, it is transferable in most cases* if you give me plenty of notice, a few days at least. In emergency situations such as illness or transport issue on the day I will accept a minimum of 3 hours’ notice *. I will hold your deposit until you are able to rebook. 

(*exception to this rule would be if  I have already traveled or had to invested time in preparations for your visit that will have to be repeated on your next visit, this includes all sessions away from my chambers where I had to book a venue). Because I have many clients traveling to me from abroad, I am happy to make a flexible arrangements (session times) and refund deposit if travel plans change and you give me a couple of days notice, as I appreciate that trips to the UK will not be frequent for most. 

 

How do you accept payments for the sessions?

Deposit via PayPal, Amazon voucher ideally. 

Balance either cash on arrival or PayPal, Amazon or bank transfer prior to arrival.  

 

*You speak of preparing for session, what does that mean?

I will plan session content based on all information provided by you, I will get the room ready and I will get myself ready to fulfil your fantasy to the best of my ability. Most importantly, I will reserve and keep clear of all other engagements, for several hours of my life to you (for 1 hour session I need about 2-4 hours for prep and clean up.

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Are you easy to find via public transport or is there parking?

I am based in Southampton within a short walk from bus and train station. Also, you can park outside my house. 

 

Do you do double sessions?

I am happy to do double domme session, if we know each other and it suits us both.  Just be aware that it will be your responsibility to cover all extra costs and I will not be able to guarantee or take responsibility for other persons engagement, performance or availability.

 

How hard will you spank me? 

Only as hard or as little as we agreed prior to the session. During the session you will be able to adjust your preference at any point. There are many ways to communicate creatively without breaking the flow. Everyone is different and I respect your preferences and boundaries and trust as an adult you will take responsibility for communicating to me if things re not to your taste. Your verbal and nonverbal communication is all I can go by, yet in roleplay scenarios, reading in-between the lines is most effectively done when words and meanings are agreed. Safe words are optional but encouraged. 

 

Would you travel to my country and session with me?

I do travel to see my clients, but they must cover the costs of the whole trip, expenses and all my  time. So you need to be able to afford it and realise that while I travel and stay away from home, you are my only income and I have abandoned my family for your benefit. That does not come cheap as nobody but my family is my priority. Money is not everything to me but my time is precious. So you either pay for it or you cannot have it.

 

Do you tour?

Yes, but I don't love traveling so the effort must be worth it. Truth is, I rarely travel these days as I have willing clients comming to me in Southampton from all over the world. And I love them for it! 

 

Do we always have to roleplay?

We certainly do not have to roleplay if it is not your thing. We can approach your session as two adults exploring and having a good fun without any pretences or acting. 

 

Can I request a specific scenario for roleplay? 

You certainly can and my from your will get after being booked in will encourage you. I will do my best to incorporate any reasonable request.

 

Can I ask for specific words and phrases to be used during the session

As above, I will do my best and I certainly like to know your favourite words to make the sessions as personal to you as possible. However, I will not be memorising lengthy scripts, my brain does not like that, as I am a busy middle age lady.

 

Do you operate with safe words?

I give all my clients opportunity to have a safe word. But some decline as it affects their experience negatively.  The delicate balance of going far enough but not too far is a game where both participants bare responsibility and communication is the key. We are all different and our non-verbal communication is not the same to the contrary believe. Claiming that I can understand everybody's body language would be foolish, arrogant and completely impossible! Science has taught us that we are very varied and difficult bunch. I love to hear from you after the session, that I got it just right, but I will never assume. Your body is your responsibility and your voice is your tool to exercise it. I will do my absolute best to tune to your needs and I will give you creative phrases where appropriate, that fit out play scenario so you can communicate clearly without disrupting our flow. Do with as you wish but I recommend that you do as told! 

 

Do I have to be naked or dresses in any particular way? 

You definitely do not, just be dressed when coming to me, please, in normal fashion, not kink on display. Prior to the session I will ask you to communicate your preference on your attire, if you have one. Dressing up, dress down, undressing fully, fetish wear, cross dressing all is perfectly fine with me and you will have the space to get change if you ask. All I ask is, please be clean, presentable and smell nice. Because I will tell you if you smell and we will not have fun and I will never see you again.

 

Can I request you to be nude during the session?

I hope you would not dare! I dress appropriately for my role as disciplinarian. Any impertinent question like this one, would only earn you the hardest cane I can muster. I remain fully clothed at all times. 

 

Can I ask for ‘completion’ at the end of the session? 

You can ask and it might be granted if it is deserved. However, it will be done by you under my instructions and supervision as I do not provide sexual services. 

 

Is there anything specific I will have to do in the session even if it is not my thing?

Definitely not, all you need to do is follow through with your end of the agreement and be a nice human. 

 

Do you have any expectations from me?

I certainly do: be respectful, communicate your needs and turn up clean. Prepare yourself for the session adequately in regards of personal hygiene. For majority of you, this is normal and goes without saying. Unfortunately, not for all. If your body or your clothes are unclean and smelly, I will ask you to leave. 

  

Will you keep my privacy and not post any images or my name anywhere?

That goes without saying. I would never jeopardise my client’s privacy in any way. During session I do not take photos or videos unless agreed or requested. And I never post anything without a specific consent granted per each media. Your secrets are safe with me. 

 

There is nothing more to be said!